Note to Self: I can only LOVE myself better, when I know who I am! You have to be content in who you are and who’s you are. You can’t recover from being hurt or shunned from people by losing yourself to their comments or negative thoughts about you.

God says in (1 Corinthians 3:4-8) Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseverance.

Loving yourself after a break up, after hurt from someone, and definitely from low self-esteem can be hard. You will start to question yourself, “Am I not pretty enough? Why didn’t he want me? Why do people walk away from me? I’m here to tell you that it can be done. Work at it, perfect it, and definitely once again OWN it. When I say own it, I mean just that.. OWN your flaws and love them just the same as the next person! Everyone has flaws, some deal with them publicly or privately but they have them. 

L: Leave people’s opinions outside your mind.
O: Only GOD can judge You! *Remember this*

V: Vote for You!

E: Explain Your purpose and dreams to no one. (some people just don’t understand)

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M: Make Yourself a priority!

Y: Your Flaws make You who You are.

S: Stand up and cheer for Yourself!

E: Evaluate the necessary from unnecessary.

L: Love everything about Your Flaws!

F: Fight for You. Team of #1 📣🏁

You have to know for yourself that you are better than the rest. Yes, there are more prettier girls out there with nice shapes and a pretty face. What do you have??? A nice shape and a pretty face as well! You can’t allow someone else’s prettiness determine who you are in life, you too are just as pretty if not prettier! You have to believe in yourself and let nothing set you apart. Stand up for yourself!!

                      My Life Story

When my daughter was a small child about 1 years old, I would read to her this book called “I Like Myself“, by Karen Beaumont, David Catrow-Illustrator. I began reading this to her every night, to show her how to love herself if she’s different. It’s a book that encourages self-esteem for kids to appreciate everything about themselves-inside and out. And be comfortable with different things.

One day, I picked her up from school (4 years old now) I asked her how was her day (the usual); and she quickly replied “This girl at school told me she didn’t like my hair and she said my shirt was ugly!” She was pretty sad about it too. (My Mommy Beast mode, and protective mode kicked in!! Who do I need to go beat up, lol 🤔😠😲😊) I kept it cool though, I asked her these questions and meant every word.. “Do YOU like your hair? Do YOU like your shirt? She replied, Yes mommy. I replied again, and that’s ALL that matters! You don’t need for other people to like your hair or the clothes you wear. You have to be happy with the things you like. I’ve never had that conversation again with her. 

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 I hear now from her teachers that when someone tells her they don’t like her clothes or hair, she replies with a little: okay a lot of sassiness saying, “I don’t care, I like it!” Point proven!

When we as women start reinforcing positive thoughts into our little girls heads, it will create a stronger  woman within them. Let me say this again, what you put into her hearing now as a child, it will create the future Her! Think about it for a second.. if you tell your child, your not smart or you can’t run like everyone else.. What’s the first thing they began to say? Well, I’m not smart enough or their too fast for me to run against. We as women have to break these generational curses, and create stronger and self-sufficient women for the next generation to come. I tell my daughter everyday “Mommy loves you, you’re so smart, you’re so beautiful, you’re a Leader and not a follower!” She can do ALL things thru Christ who strengthens her! (Philippines 4:13) 

Remember, you are YOU for a reason! No one can be you nor be like you! God made you perfect in his own eyes AND in his OWN image, and if you LOVE you… That’s all that matters!!!

Love ya’ll 💕💕,

Ms. Bw-Tee