Do you know how to truly forgive someone? When you forgive do you Forget or do you bring it back up? Well, if you answered YES to any part of this question… you haven’t forgave properly. God says: “And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.” Luke 17:4

YES, I do know that it is the back of your mind at all times… but don’t make a person relive their mistakes over and over again. If you say you forgive them do just that Forgive them and move on. Sometimes your pride won’t allow you to say your sorry. In order to walk in the fullness of GOD, you will say sorry alot through your journey on earth. So what if they keep doing the same thing after the asked for forgiveness..

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Matthew 18:21-22 says

21 Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus *said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.

My Self Reflection: In life I haven’t been perfect and even to now, still NOT perfect. But, I’m a work in progress and willing to admit when I have done something wrong. I have really mad some people mad at me for the choices I’ve made.. Yes, I said the choices I’ve made! They weren’t right, and I had to learn how to humble myself and ask them for forgiveness. It took me a while, to get my thoughts together to do it… And when I finally was able to submit myself to them and ask them to forgive me, I was so happy that I humbled myself enough to say “I’m sorry”. It’s not about getting brownie points or trying to get a reaction out of people, it’s about recognizing that you have hurt someone and try not to do it again. But once you say it mean it! So if anyone is reading this and I did something  wrong to you or towards you: “I’m  SORRY, please forgive me”

•Devil’s View (Pride)
1. Don’t do it, they did you wrong so they deserve it!
2. They didn’t care enough about you.
3. What are you going to gain asking for forgiveness??

•GOD’S View (Humbleness)
1. Peace among men!!
2. It doesn’t matter what the world says about you!
3. You will gain favor with the Lord!

So NOW, you tell me do you want to forgive or not?? It will be a greater reward in the end…HEAVEN is my goal!

Forgiving someone doesn’t make you soft or a weakling… it makes you HUMBLE! Definition of Humble is: not proud or arrogant; modest When going to someone for forgiveness ask GOD to lead you and be a mouth piece for you. You have to go with the intention that you have set aside your pride and self, and willing to ALLOW GOD to do the rest. Forgive people even if they don’t forgive you.

God says in Mark 11:25: “And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.” You gotta learn how to forgive…

Remember, Forgiveness leads to inner joy, inner happiness and definitely inner peace!

Love ya’ll,

Mrs. BW-TEE 💕

Trust is a 5 letter word broken in two.. it takes years to build, but only seconds to break, and a lifetime to repair it! Think about..

The bible says: “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and lean not unto your own understanding.” (Proverbs 3:5) It didn’t say Trust man.. because they WILL surely let you down nor did it say Trust in material things… because they will fade away. But it DID said TRUST in the lord! You can either TRUST GOD with your whole heart, or live in fear of the unknown for the rest of your life. You choose.

For Example: Jonah and the whale.. (Now the summed up verison): God commanded Jonah to go and preach repentance to the city of Nineveh, but Jonah didn’t want to go to Niveveh due to it begin known for its wickedness, instead he went to Joppa and booked passage on a ship to Tarshish, heading directly away from Nineveh. So in other words Jonah “ran away from the Lord.” 😨😨 God sent a violent storms sea, Jonah told the men to throw him overboard. First they tried rowing to shore, but the waves got even higher. Afraid of God, the sailors finally tossed Jonah into the sea, and the water immediately grew calm. Instead of drowning, Jonah was swallowed by a great fish, which God provided. Jonah was in the belly of the whale for three days, finally Jonah repented and cried out to God in prayer. He praised God and was spit out”(Jonah 1-4)

Now, the reason I used this example is because when GOD commands you do to something. You have to TRUST in his instructions and do it! GOD has already set a path for you and worked out ALL the issues… he just needs you to go. Don’t hesitate because he will bring you to it again, and the next time won’t be so easy. Jonah like some of us wanted to do it his way, and GOD said: “I will show you my way is right” You have to listen and Obey GOD’S words when he commands you. He learned a lesson…

You have to learn how to Trust GOD for direction, strength and favor. GOD is waiting on you to Trust him so that he can do what you want him to do. It was when JESUS died on the cross, and rose on the third day… is when I put my TRUST in JESUS!

For Example: If you have a piece of paper that is good, and you crumble it… it’s not perfect anymore right? Well, that’s  what GOD is saying to you… I know your not perfect, but I will make you perfect if you Trust in me. GOD can take the broken pieces or the unusable things and mold them into something! He wants the willing, he says many are called but few are chosen. Nothing else matters to GOD, if you give your ALL unto him.

Self-Reflection

This subject makes me cry so much, because I have placed my trust in people who let me down or used and abused me. Ftiends walked away, talked about me, laughed at me, told me i wasnt going to be nothing..I tried my best to do good by others and in return got nothing. Allowed my fears (hurt) to make me bitter, but I know I couldnt be mean or spiteful towrds others. It just wasn’t in my character nor was it in my heart, I couldnt help myself… I’m human too and was hurt along with other things! I didn’t know what to do, but I knew who to turn too, but I was blinded by my hurt and didn’t want kept it inside.  I sat back and thought of ALL the times I was okay and what I had been through, I began to pray (trusting) and asking GOD to heal my hurt and show me how to Trust again… he began to work on me! I can’t say that I don’t think about my past (I’ve come to far to turn back now), but everyday I get stronger with my faith and trusting GOD knowing he is fixing my broken pieces. I know that GOD has me, when no one else does! One thing I will have to do is LET IT GO, AND LET GOD! I can’t hold on to it too, and expect GOD to fix it at the same time. “If it’s  GOD will for my life, it is so”.. I say this all the time (encourge myself).

Remember, TRUST in the name of the Lord always!

Love ya’ll,

Mrs. BW-TEE 💕

Good Afternoon Sparkling * BW-TEE’S!

What do you know about boundaries??? Do you know boundaries exist? Do you have boundaries in your life?? Well, if not I will help you… Just read and take notes 😆.

5 steps to take:
1. You have to know what your limits are

2. You have to be prepared to make some changes in your life

3. You have to be consistent with your plan

4. You can NOT break under pressure

5. You have to LOVE you, no matter who or what walks away from you.

You can’t allow EVERYTHING to enter into your life! You have to be selective in what you listen to, people you hang around, and what you watch on television, and who you allow in your home. 

For Example, If you don’t like drama, don’t find a friend/people who only keep up drama… because once you let the drama in, it’s harder to get rid of each and everytime. Letting people know what your boundaries are in the beginning will cut out the miscommunication and respect. People will only do what you ALLOW them too and once you set them, enforce them with others.

Caption: What’s your Boundaries?

My definition of Boundaries: The confidence to politely let the people around you know that they need to respect the rules!

You have to know and be willing to allow these boundaries to make you better. Even GOD has boundaries,(in my opinion) that’s why the 10 commandments and entire bible are in place (laws). These are things GOD will not allow to enter in the kingdom. GOD has set these  boundaries so that people can live right. I wanna make it to Heaven, and sit with JESUS!

Boundaries NOT meant to be broken! They’re there for a reason…Structure! Structure will keep you grounded.

This quote says alot! Everyone person has a breaking point, and it’s not that your being mean or rude… it’s just you have reached your limit! Once your limit has been reached and your losing you sanity… it’s time to EXIT! Don’t allow someone to take you out of your comfort zone (sanity).

Remember, you set the tone (boundaries) on how people approach you, talk to you, and most definitely how they respect you!

Love ya’ll,

Mrs. BW-TEE 💕

Motherhood is an organized group with different mommies, all over the world who are viewed as one. When pregnant with your little love child, you instantly get a lifetime membership to a NEW group called MOMMYHOOD! 👫👭🍼🚼 It’s an EXCELLENT group and we stick together!

As a little girl growing up, we all have a dream of becoming a mommy. The dream starts off with your baby dolls, that you carry everywhere with you! You talk to them, play with them, comb their hair, change their clothes and even change diapers. This is the life, right?? Easy enough, well not quite. The dream doesn’t come with a set schedule day to day, you cant pick and choose when you want to be a mom, it doesn’t come with a manual and nor does it come easy! It takes time, dedication, and patience to mode you into the BEST mommy you can be. There are times you feel like giving up, but you look at that little baby face and EVERYTHING is so worth the fight, struggle and frustration that comes with it.

M: Moments like these, I prayed for
O: Orange you glad I’m here ( 🍊😄)
M: Mommy will ALWAYS be your Best Friend
M: Makes life more meaningful
Y: You will ALWAYS be my favorite

A mother is someone who is loving, nuturing, strong, caring, and will give her last to her children. A mother sacrifices everything for her special little person (s). A mother is a child’s first Best Friend, First Love and thirdly their Best Teacher! It takes a village to raise a child, and ALL the help, corrections, and lessons is greatly appreciated!

                        True Life
Before, I became pregnant I would listen to ALL the mommy stories about pregnancy and becoming a mother. Some good and some bad, they would say: “Oh, labor pains are horrible, you will not be able to get much sleep, you will eat alot, it will mess you body up, and definitely pee alot. You sure your ready for this???” In my mind I’m thinking: NO WAY, NO how!!!

I would question myself and say: “If ALL of this happens, why do women continue having children???” Losing sleep was not happening in my book.. I LOVED sleep…😨😨 lol Nevertheless, we decided to have a baby anyway. Well, the pregnancy was GREAT! Gained 20 lbs, hair was growing skin looking good, what more could a woman ask for right?? Now, we’re here to the delivery part! Those contractions started to kick in and I was 6 cm dilated by myself, and the pain began to get worse;  I called the nurse saying: “DRUGS, please!!!” Lol, got the epidural and started to feel GREAT! Time came for me to start pushing and pushed for 4 hours and nothing was happening.

Kept trying, the doctor came in and said to us: “You may have to get a c-section because your pushing and nothing is happening.” My world flipped instantly.. started thinking; What am I doing wrong, What will happen to my baby, Where do we go from here, How will our family see our daughter being born??? All of these questions were ALL unanswered in my mind… Panic set in, and I began to cry… I was hurt that I would NOT be able to give birth naturally, the way I had planned too. 4 hours later, our healthy BIG baby (9lbs 3oz) was born through c-section!! Once I heard her cries and saw her little face, I knew ALL of my worry and fear were worth it. I’m blessed to have experienced this part of life!

People say ALL the time: “A Mother’s work is NEVER done”, I can honestly say they’re correct! Although, we run with them, scream at them, fuss at them, cry with or for them, and get upset/frustrated/aggregated at the things our children do. It will NEVER replace the Joy they bring, Happiness/Smiles on their faces, Laughter they give us, and most importantly LOVE they give us. Children don’t understand fully what parents have to deal with from day to day, all they do know is I have a SUPER-MOMMY and she will take care of me!

In my mother’s arms is where I find safety from this cruel/mean world. You’ll place you hands in mines, and trust me with your life.. My promise is to keep you safe, warm, and love you forever! 

Becoming a mommy happens to be one of the BEST things GOD ever created for woman to do!

Remember, to hug and kiss your little babies everyday and tell them how much you love them!

I was inspired to be a GOOD mommy by: My mom, My Aunts, My Older cousin’s and Good friends! Thanks for teaching/showing me how to do it. 😄😚😍

Love ya’ll,

Mrs. BW-TEE 💕

Love is… NOT PERFECT! It does come with mistakes and a few flaws. But, what Love doesn’t do is Hurt and takes time to prove it. Love isn’t Love until you give it away.

Love is patient, love is kind, love is happiness and most importantly it should be True! One thing about Love is: “It doesn’t have to be good, it just needs to be real!” When it’s real is speaks volumes. (think about it) When you’re in Love, you want to WHOLE world to know, it’s simple written all over your face and you can’t hide it. I wouldn’t want too either, it’s a wonderful feeling to be loved!

Love is teamwork! When your working together not only are you building memories, but your also growing your love for one another. Teamwork does makes the (Love) dream work! Knowing how to make your love work for you is a key happiness. It’s my Love and I want it NOW!! (Yes, the commercial voice)

Proof of Love: You will..
L: Laugh together (often)
O: Obey each other (Respect)
V: Value each other’s time
E: Everything isn’t easy (takes some work)

                  “My Self Reflection“

I remember growing up as a little girl, and use to think to myself: “How can someone Love you so much and you NEVER get tired of them??” There’s no way, so I thought! Nevertheless, as an adult I’ve finally realized how.:idea:Here’s how… Once you find that special someone that can be your BEST friend, who can accept you with ALL your flaws and mistakes, who you can confide your deepest secrets with; who can love you on your worst days, and who can also love you on your ugly/lazy days as well… This is how you know that special someone can love you and NEVER get tired. You know why??? Here’s why… It’s called TRUE love, it makes your heart skip beats and your stomach get butterflies. (LOVE) 💑💏
You can’t force Real love, it comes naturally. I look at my parents, who’s been married for 37 years and think.. NOW, this is Real Love!

We were given: Two hands to hold, Two legs to walk, Two eyes to see, Two ears to listen. But, why one heart?? Because the other was given to that special someone, to find us.. Love

Don’t allow your Love to be the same, change it up and keep finding NEW and different ways to love. Keep’em guessing.

Love is doing things you NEVER imagined yourself doing; to doing things you NEVER imagined could be done. Love is trial and error, if you NEVER love… You’ll NEVER experience the REAL love!💖💞💓❤

You’re my Today, My tomorrow and My FOREVER! :)😍

Remember, NO ONE is perfect (but GOD); so don’t give up on LOVE! Because GOD is love.

Love ya’ll,

Mrs. BW-TEE 💕

Good Morning Sparkling * BW-TEE’S!

Happiness is a journey and not a destination! You have to choose to be happy and it starts from within. Your happiness should be a priority, and in order to keep it; you gotta be consistent!

Questions to ask yourself daily:
1. Am I really happy??
2. Does my happiness depend on others??
3. Do I  know how to remain happy??

If you answered these questions with hesitation, your not truly happy… Your happiness should remain and help improve you and the way you view others. Be happy for others, but also make sure your happy for yourself too.

                     Today’s Quote

Happiness is the overcoming of not unknown obstacles toward a known goal.”  Anonymous 

My Self Reflection: I use to be the person that would wait and see if other people were happy for me. I would do something and say aren’t you happy for me? Their answer is always “Sure or Yes”. Well, I started to sit back and think… Why do I need to ask others are they happy for me?? If, I’m NOT happy for myself, then why should someone else be happy for me?? I have learned that NO matter what it is good or bad, I’m happy for myself! My happiness is based on my journey, trials, and mistakes in life that I’ve made; I didn’t allow it to hinder my joy/happiness. It took me a minute to figure out how to be happy, but when I found out…. I haven’t stopped yet. I smile and laugh all the time, because I know that it could be worse. You have to encourage yourself to bring out your own happiness. Yes, I live on purpose!

You have to become happy with the things that you like. Life throws curveballs, and you gotta know how to dodge them. Take a stand for your own happiness; plus, it’s GOOD for your health. STOP waiting on someone else to validate your ticket to happiness. You grab hold of the ticket and run with the wind. 👟🏃💨

Don’t  complain about your day, complain about your happiness!

7 tips to happiness:

Try your BEST to work on the negative things in your life. Look at life in a whole new way, and say if today could be different what would I do??? I would smile more, share my life experiences, help others, show people how to be happy; if this is the case DO IT. Pat your own self, on the back and see I found my happiness. Wake up and live!

If your happy and you know it clap your hands 👏👏
If your happy and you know it clap your hands 👏👏
If your happy and you know it then your face :)😄😆 will surely show it;
If you happy and you know it clap your hands 👏👏!

Remember, GOD is the only way to be truly happy!

Love ya’ll,

Mrs. BW-TEE 💕

                     

A Woman of strength: is one who is willing to be weak/strong for the one’s she loves. She doesn’t allow her mistakes to define who she is; but, does pick up the broken pieces and move forward. Futhermore, Nothing will get in her way!

My definition  of Strength:
S: Selfless
T:Trustworthy
R: Respects herself
E: Encourages others
N: Never give up
G: God is the head of her life
T: Teaches others
H: Has Self-confidence

When you think of a woman what comes to mind??? Me.. I think a classy, (in her own skin) beautiful (not just appearance), dedicated, courageous, motivated and confident person. She walks with stride, because she knows where she’s been and where she’s going.

Where there is Strength, there is power! You have to know your own strengths and weakness, so that you can fix it or enhance it. Women deal with so much hurt, pain, weakness, and most importantly everyday life (society). We as women have to bond together and build a community that’s full of love, encouragement, dedication and definitely support for each other.
    
    This is where the Strength part comes in…

Instead of making fun, making them feel less of a woman or talking about another woman’s imperfections; you should encourage them with your words of wisdom. Maybe they don’t know,  where to turn for help, or what to say/do to make their situation right. It takes a team to raise a GOOD woman! (Mom, sister, daughter, aunt, friend, teacher, grandmother, etc) There’s Strength in numbers! Teach and they shall be taught! (think about it)

Life lesson… You NEVER know who strong you can be, until it’s ALL you have left. Stand until it’s no strength left in you. We as women are NOT defeated, BUT, winners we are!

YOU DON’T HAVE to be what everyone elses expects you to be… Just be YOU! Your strength conquers all! There’s nothing that a woman CAN’T do! Put your mind to it and do it!

<strong>5 Things to remind yourself daily
1. I am Amazing
2. I can do anything
3. Positivity is a choice
4. I celebrate my individuality
5. I am prepared to succeed

We are Strong No matter what we have been through, the Strength of a Woman is powerful!!

Remember: Smile and show the world, I’m stronger today than I was yesterday! :)😆

Love ya’ll forever,

Mrs. BW-TEE 💕 💕

Mrs. BW-TEE 💕

Good Morning Sparkling * BW-TEE’S!!

Say THANK you JESUS! Everyday is a day to be THANKFUL! On this day, I’m THANKFUL for what I’ve learned, gone through and where I’m about to go. My LIFE is just that MY LIFE and I’m  starting to live again! I couldn’t and wouldn’t ccomplain about it one bit. It’s just that GREAT!

My definition of thankful:
T: Trust
H: Humble yourself
A: Allow his timing
N: Never give up
K: Kindness
F: Faith and Favor
U: Understanding GOD’S promises
L: Love one another

Don’t  ALLOW yourself to become a complainer, but ALLOW yourself to become a praiser! Learn the difference…

When you Thank GOD in advance for a turn around in you situation, he will bless you during that situation. Don’t wait until you’re broken down or about to lose it to Thank him. God says is in word: “Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name!” (Psalm 100:4) Faith, Favor and Praise… NOW, watch him move on your behalf.

My life hasn’t been all peaches and cream… my life has been a struggle from day to day. But, once I ACCEPTED GOD as my Lord and savior; my life has been so GREAT!! I will not walk on my own, I will wait on GOD to direct me each and everytime. I will stand on his promises. I stand here to tell you that you could be worse off than where you are now. Back in 2013 I kept saying: “I will be in a house next year, I gotta find me a house.” Wasn’t really looking, but kinda of just searching. Got discouraged a couple times and lost hope… I started praying for GOD’S will that I find a house within my budget; and nearing the end of my lease I still was saying I will get me a house. I stopped looking… (self was in the way) I stand here to tell you today that I have a house!!!!! 😭😭 (I’m a crybaby, so please forgive me) I’m so THANKFUL that GOD has opened up those doors for me. I pray that you will open up your heart, mind and soul to GOD so that he can bless you as well. If you Humble yourself to his will, he WILL!  I’m  not bragging or boasting, I’m just so THANKFUL that I can trust and believe in GOD and his timing! I don’t care what MAN has to say about me.. BUT,  I do care what GOD says about me! #I will win this race #faith #favor #praise

Remember, remain humble and in ALL things give thanks!

Love ya’ll,

Mrs. BW-TEE 💕

Good Morning Sparkling * BW-TEE’S!

This is another TOUGH topic… Knowing your Worth is a GOOD value to place on your life. When you know what you want, you know how to obtain it, NOW all you gotta do is hold on to it… Let nothing get in it’s way! People will settle for ANYTHING because it feels right or their comfortable in that situation! That should NOT be the case, nor should it be an option when you know your worth.

Definition of Worth: “The value of something measured by its qualities or by the esteem in which it is held”.

If you’re a GOOD man/woman don’t ALLOW someone that’s not adding to your worth bring you down and accept what they’re giving. Any relationship/friendship should be 50/50, and it should be a team effort! I hear people say all the time.. “I wish I had somebody different or I wish they were like this that, or I wish they could do this for me or do that for me??” The reason that they are NOT doing XYZ, is clearly because… YOU ready???? They’re NOT adding to your worth! What is meant for you, you won’t have to ask or beg them to do it. You have to know that you are WORTH more than what you’re getting. View yourself a GOLDEN ticket, not everyone gets one. Remember that, once it’s used it’s gone.

I have a friend that tell people make a list of what you want and don’t want in a man/woman/friend. Once you  make your list; compare he/she to the things you’ve listed and if they doesn’t fall into your list qualities… They’re not for you!!! Don’t force it, let it go. (In my FROZEN voice) lol Moving right away, hahaha 😂

Don’t  settle for any old thing, just to say I have a man/woman/friend. It’s not worth it in the end. You have so much going for yourself and you don’t need nothing holding you back from achieving your goals. Look for signs, they’re there..

For example: If you know you love steak, and someone says to you: “Oh, I’m cooking Salisbury steak do you want some?? Now we all know the steak is part of the equation… BUT, it’s  NOT the real deal… Why are you settling ??? You choose to say no thank and keep it moving. You know your worth when you do.

Knowing what you bring to the table (WORTH) is good, and should not be down played because someone doesn’t agree with you. You will be okay if they don’t match your worth. You have to see things in yourself, so other can see it too! Nobody can force you to see your worth. Do a self-assessment and say self, self say huh??? Do I know my WORTH??? If not, time to reevaluate your life. It can be done: ALL it takes time, dedication and sacrifice.

Have a good day,

I LOVE ya’ll
Mrs. BW-TEE 💕💕

Mrs. BW-TEE 💕